Ever finish a launch, sales pitch, keynote, or event…and feel totally empty?

Me too. I call it an energetic hangover—when you’ve poured everything mental, emotional, and energetic into a thing…and afterwards you’re wiped.

Last week, after hosting The Integrated Man Retreat, I hit that wall.
The event was beautiful. Transformational. Life-changing.
And yet—fog. Fatigue. Nothing in the tank.

I tried my usual reset: meditation, long walks, massage, sauna, sleep.
Still drained.

So I sat down, asked, “Why am I still empty?” and waited.

Here’s what intuitively dropped in:

When we “hold the room,” we’re building a real energetic field—before, during, and after. That’s required.
Where we lose power is when we attach our worth to the outcome—to how people respond, to visible reactions, to metrics in real time. I was grading myself on what I could see in the moment: nods, tears, breakthroughs.

Truth: My job is to build the field, show up fully, and deliver with love.
It is not my job to control outcomes.
That part belongs to God / the Universe / the wisdom in the room. Let go. Let God.

When we try to do it all—create, deliver, and force the result—we drain our life force.
When we release expectation, energy returns.

The 5-Minute Post-Launch Reset

Use this the next time you create something big (or today if you’re in a hangover):

1. Name it: “I’m feeling a spiritual hangover.” (Awareness = relief.)
2. Return the outcome: Hand it back. “I release results. I did my part.”
3. Recover your energy: One minute of slow breathing. Inhale: receive. Exhale: release.
4. Re-anchor identity: Say out loud 3 times: “I am the one who shows up fully. That is enough.”
5. Close the loop: Write one line in your journal—what I gave—not what they did.

If you only remember one line:

Create the field. Show up fully. Release the outcome.

When we do this, we don’t just protect our energy—we multiply it.

With love,
Rudi

Try this today: Forward this to one person who gives a lot. Tell them, “You did your part. Rest.”

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